Let me explain.
About two years ago my wife and I decided to print out the rules of the house and hang it on the wall of our hallway. Our then 5-year-old son would walk by them and barely notice they were there.
At first, the list was only a few items with points like – “follow directions”, “remember your manners”, and “eat your meals.” These were good but too vague, and they didn’t really teach anything.
We were frustrated. Don’t get me wrong, he is a good kid but just like most kids, he certainly has his moments too. The rules hanging on the wall were not helping.
Why hanging the rules doesn’t work and what we did about it.
We found ourselves trying to explain why each rule is important right after one of the rules was not followed, and it seemed like after a few minutes he just tuned us out. Our timing was off and we felt like we were lecturing.
So our list got bigger and longer and our frustration grew. A bigger and longer list was not what we needed. So what did we do?